When I was 18, I worked for a couple who owned two gift shops in our local area.

They seemed obsessed with details. I didn’t understand why. They were always concerned about making sales! Relax, I thought.

I had no idea about the difficulties they faced. Even though I’d been working for a couple of years, the pressures of running a business at that age were still foreign to me. The lessons were there but I was not ready to receive them.

It was only later when I had my own business that I was able to reflect back and relate to what they must have been going through. After a few years, the business closed. No wonder, they were worried.

We’ve gotten many emails over the years and read many reviews online where people wish they’d learned to go for no sooner. Or, they heard it or read it but they didn’t really “get it” at the time.

Many times we just are not ready to learn certain things. Learning is not passive. It does not happen by osmosis either. If it were, all those books on my book shelf would’ve seeped into my brain by now!

Consider this: Every day we learn things, formally and informally and we’re usually in one of four states

  1. Ready to absorb the lesson but not able.
  2. Ready and able to learn the lesson.
  3. Not yet ready.
  4. Not able and not ready.

When I was very young stepdad would set me on his lap and let me steer the car down the street so I could feel what it was like to drive. But, I was not able or ready to learn to drive.  When it came time to drive at 16, I was ready and I was able. (But all the “driving” I did when I was younger was of zero help. I didn’t absorb anything from those lessons.)

But at 16, once I was ready, all I wanted was to jump into the front seat of the car and go. As we all know, the more you drive, the better you get. Now, I drive on “autopilot.”

Learning and applying what we learn is…

  • Building upon what you already know.
  • Layering more experience and knowledge on top of it.
  • Being in a place where you are ready and able to learn.
  • Having the opportunity to apply that learning.

So when it comes to learning to Go for No (or anything else for that matter) keep these things in mind.

  1. You must want to learn! Never stop learning either, it keeps your brain healthy.
  2. Always be aware of how things are connected. Everything you experience and learn is connected to something else. Your brain LOVES connections.
  3. Be aware of situations where you can practice what you are learning.
  4. As you practice, be willing to try and fail. Don’t try to be perfect.
  5. And finally, don’t ever beat yourself up if there’s a lesson that you miss or weren’t ready for. You’ll have your chance.


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