What Are the Most Important Things to Do When Asking?

by | Oct 9, 2022 | asking, Uncategorized | 0 comments

The truth is, a lot of people don’t know how, exactly, to ask.

Here are what we consider the most important things to do when it comes to going for no and asking in any capacity.

1…. Don’t bury the question under a ton of unnecessary information. When people get nervous they overdo it with a big serving of word salad. Australian online casinos Keep your ask simple and specific.

2… End with a question mark. An “ask” by its definition requires a question. Don’t make a bunch of statements and then hope the person you are talking to is a mind-reader or will give you an answer to a question you refuse to ask them.

3… Ask politely, respectfully, and cheerfully. (People who think asking is pushy or aggressive are not doing it right.)

4… Give just a little context. Sounds like…

“Based on what you just told me…”

“Because I know you also bought/have/use…”
“Since you are/live/do…”
“Hey, I was curious if…”

Or, “Do you mind if I ask you a question?”

5… Then make the ask! Sounds like…

“Would you, Will you, Could you, Can you, Have you, Do you, Are you…” whatever makes the most sense for your situation obviously.

6… Maintain your posture. Do not beg. Don’t apologize. Do not come across as desperate. (You could even say, “If you are not interested if it’s a no, etc. feel free to tell me. No worries!”)

In my favorite book, “The Aladdin Factor” they share a story from Dr. David A. Maclennan, Priming the Preacher’s Pump:

A salesman for a key-making machine entered a hardware store and gave the shopkeeper a demonstration.
Isn’t it a wonderful machine?” he asked.
“Yes it is.”
“It would be a marvelous investment and a great timesaver, wouldn’t it?”
“Yes.”
“Well, why don’t you buy it?”
“Well,” said the shopkeeper, “why don’t you ask me to?”

Finally, like anything else in life, the more you ask, the better you get. So, get out there and start practicing.

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