Everyone gets into slumps occasionally for a wide variety of reasons. If you find yourself in one, here are four things you should do right away to pull out of it.
1. Stop feeling sorry for yourself.
That might not be what you want to be told. I read once, “All depression has its roots in self-pity, and all self-pity is rooted in people taking themselves too seriously.” Stop carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders. You are not the “General Manager” of the Universe. When you are stressed and focused only on problems, what’s wrong, and the negatives do this exercise: Make a list of the 25 things you are grateful for. (You have running water? Indoor plumbing? Your health? A job? Opportunity to improve?) Seriously, it could be a lot worse.) A gratitude list is a magnificent way to get out of self-pity mode.
2. Stop comparing yourself to others.
It was Mark Twain who said, “Comparison is the death of joy.” Thus, happiness is found when you stop comparing yourself to other people. (Do you have the “shoulds?” I should make this much each month, I should be this far along, I should have… stop “shoulding” all over yourself!) If you are in a slump, comparison only serves to make you feel worse and gets you back in the mode of self-pity. The only time comparison is ever helpful is when it inspires you to take action. Are you motivated when you see the person next to you crush it? Great! Celebrate them and let it inspire you. Otherwise, keep your head down.
3. Focus on your activities.
In a Go for No world, we suggest you focus on your activity which means your behaviors. Can you control your customers and prospects? No.
But you can control yourself and what you choose to do. Take action! See how many no’s you can get today. Also, avoid getting into constant measurement mode every second. (Graphs, charts, and numbers don’t change the longer you stare at them!) When you get in motion, the world around you will start to move as well and more will come your way. It’s weird but true.
4. Don’t panic.
A lot of athletes go through slumps, too. Shots that don’t go in. Missed hits. The more they obsess over it, the worse it becomes. Review this list again especially number 3. Do your best, execute your activity, and then detach from the outcome. And then, reward yourself for that activity. As baseball player Hank Aaron said, “My motto was always to keep swinging. Whether I was in a slump or feeling bad or having trouble off the field, the only thing to do was keep swinging.”
Be patient. The days and weeks will pass and the slump you are in will pass as well.
But the faster you embrace these four keys, the better off you’ll be.
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