Eating NO for Breakfast

 IMG_0700In our Go for No! DVD Movie, Wayne Allyn Root said, “I always say that I eat NO for breakfast. ‘NO’ is the opening dialogue of a conversation. That’s all no is. When someone says ‘NO’ to you, that’s the start of a long negotiation.”

You can begin by just creating a ‘no awareness.’ How many no’s are you getting a day… or a week, or month? If it’s none or not many… it’s time to start adopting a new mindset. No’s are the breakfast of champions!

A couple years ago, Wayne released a great book called, The Power of Relentless. He discusses it briefly in this quick video. The book will absolutely inspire you.

Get Wayne’s book on Amazon here!

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Ready to Redesign Your Life?

Do you want to redesign your life?   Years ago we interviewed the authors of “Repotting” Ginger Pape and Diana Holman.

As someone who finds raising plants a challenge, I was intrigued by their premise of changing your life and how it relates to plants.  My favorite quote from their book is, Rule 6 in the “Rules of Repotting” which is to Find Your Authentic Self – Write Your Story: “Women today are asking themselves: Why put off being who I really want to be? We don’t have the luxury of living a “practice” life.”

So, on the subject of “repotting” I had personally never repotted an actual plant until reading their book. Truth be told no plant ever survived long enough. However for the last two years I have had a wonderful (incredibly resilient) plant that has grown nicely despite being under my care.

So I took my plant, got in the car and went to the local nursery where I planned to have them repot my plant. it was time. However, as the woman at the nursery explained to me – (whom I was gladly prepared to pay for this service) – they don’t do it.

With instructions, a new yellow pot and soil, I left to repot. As it turns out the roots of this plant had become so twisted, tangled and long that I literally had to cut off the pot to finally get it out (as you can see.) The amazing news is I did it and the plant is still living. I was so excited that I called my mother to tell her and, buoyed by my success I repotted my other 2 plants.

Lessons learned:

1) If you don’t repot often enough your roots get so long and tangled it gets harder and harder.

2) No one will repot for you.

3) I am a repotter both in my plant life and life-life.

As Richard likes to say,

“You can’t have the life you want unless you are willing to give up the life you have.” – Richard Fenton  (And in this case that also goes for the pot!)

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Stop Striving Start Arriving

Do you feel like you are constantly striving… but never arriving? Maybe that’s because you never allow yourself to arrive.

Most people only reward themselves for results. And most often, those results still aren’t good enough. You’re still not as good as what someone else did.

How about you start being a little kinder to yourself? And, instead of your efforts never measuring up to your expectations and the reward always off in the distance somewhere, around the next bend, you reward yourself more frequently for all the small actions and efforts that you do?

(This is one of the lessons in Go for No! Reward for no’s as well as yeses! Celebrate failure not just success!)

In addition to the next to-do list that you write, write up a “I did” list.

Remember the things that you took action on and accomplished. Did those things require courage? Did you take a risk? Did you ‘go for no?’

Now reward yourself for those things and I bet you’ll be a little more excited to stay positive and keep moving forward in the future. If you are your own boss (and ultimately you ARE the boss of your own life) don’t be a jerk to work for! Be the kind of boss who inspires your own greatness rather than someone who you can never seem to live up to.

Have you read Go for No! yet? Pick it up at our store here or on Amazon if you prefer. If you like audio books, you can find all of our books including Go for No! and the newest, The Diamond Line on Audible.

Rejection Fears Sabotaging You?

Fear of rejection can sabotage you. An all-too common comment we hear: what do you do when fear is keeping you off the phone?

While online marketing can carry you pretty far, most sales will take place through conversations over the phone and it’s up to you to dial the number.

You cannot analyze your way out of this until the fear is gone.

Action is the only remedy. So, adopt a simple three part strategy:

1) Only allow yourself to do the day’s most enjoyable task until the call(s) is made.
2) Write out the 1-2 points you want to discuss and end with a question. A final decision making question must be asked. Keep it short.
3) Be willing to be bad. Perfectionism is the enemy of lost sales and productivity. Besides, no one knows what it was supposed to be like, only you do.

The worst most screwed up presentation still has the chance to take you to the next step or land you a sale.

Have you read Go for No! yet? Pick it up at our store here or on Amazon if you prefer. If you like audio books, you can find all of our books including Go for No!

Rejection Therapy Goes Mainstream

Thanks to Jia Jiang’s viral Krispy Kreme video a ‘go for no‘ mindset is taking hold in today’s consciousness. (In fact, eventually Jia went on to write a book about his 100 rejection experiments called, Rejection Proof.)

If you have not seen it, the video features Jiang entering a Krispy Kreme store and asking for an Olympic-style logo of donuts – something he is certain will get him a quick ‘no’ response. Instead, he encounters Jackie, a tenacious and creative employee who actually pulls off the task.

In the process of trying to get rejected, Jiang ends up discovering someone who does her utmost to go the extra mile and makes Krispy Kreme look pretty good too.  What makes the video so special is because it’s about two people – one who had the courage to ask and one who had the heart to help.

Have you read Go for No! yet? Pick it up at our store here or on Amazon if you prefer. If you like audio books, you can find all of our books including Go for No!

Failing Exponentially

Failing yourself is one thing. Failing as a team is what we call, Failing Exponentially. It’s the final level  in The Five Failure Levels. 

If it makes sense to fail on your own then everyone failing together makes sense too.

One of the most successful ad agencies in the world is Wieden+Kennedy based in Portland Oregon. Clients include Facebook, Nike, Coca-Cola, and Old Spice. According to a story about founder Dan Wieden in Ad Age, after he started the agency he had two young “creatives” who were talented but intimidated.

He said, “You ladies are no good to me or anyone else until you make three gigantic mistakes, so let’s get on with it.” Wieden gets failure.

So much that there are 119,000 plastic pushpins tacked to a wall at the Portland headquarters spell out the mantra: “Fail Harder.”

 

Billionaire Blakely’s Dad was Failure-Loving Father

Sara Blakely, billionaire founder of the women’s undergarment sensation Spanx, wasn’t just encouraged to succeed by her father… she was encouraged to fail.

Sarah was quoted as saying, “my father used to ask my brother and me what we had failed at recently and then congratulate us. He did complete reverse psychology on us.  Failure was something we sought out and not this scary thing. I think many people are debilitated by the fear of failure, so he gave us a real gift.”

Sara has also said that over time, because of his encouragement and (literal) high-fives for failing that her definition of failure became not trying.

Looks like her Dad’s failure-focus paid off!

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Have you read Go for No! yet? Pick it up at our store here or on Amazon if you prefer. If you like audio books, you can find all of our books including Go for No! and the newest, The Diamond Line on Audible.

Fixing Lazy Follow Up

GFN-CameraPoem-FINALThis post is part of a four part series that started with, Are You Struggling with Rejection? followed up by the post, Want to Meet Influential People? In the third post, Are You Feeling Desperate? I give some simple advice: be open, be flexible, and don’t be desperate.

And that leads to the last piece in the puzzle: following up. Sometimes you have a great conversation with someone and… it stalls. For whatever reason, the next step does not happen. Now, if the next step is yours you better get moving. The last thing you want to do after connecting and beginning to build a relationship with someone is to just let it drift because you did not take action.

The goal of follow up is to turn your invested time into winning relationships. However what if your connection fails to follow through? What then?

Don’t be lazy! You are pursuing them. You need to be the leader and the one to check in, follow up, and attempt to move things forward. So go back to step one. Reach back out through email or voice mail.

Poor results are often the result of lazy follow up strategies.

Remind the person about your conversation and what you discussed. Use a piece of information you learned from an earlier communication to be friendly and connect on a deeper level beyond just whatever the ‘business’ transaction might be. You might need to move through this process for sometime with some people. But if it’s worth getting to kNOw this person in the first place, then it’s worth pursuing and seeing it through to the end… until you really do know them!

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Have you read Go for No! yet? Pick it up at our store here or on Amazon if you prefer. If you like audio books, you can find all of our books including Go for No! and the newest, The Diamond Line on Audible.

Are You Feeling Desperate?

GFN-LionCubFINALIn a previous post about getting to know people, I discussed the truth which is we don’t know anything until we ask. Then in my post Do You Want to Meet Influential People? I covered why you must do a little research, find out about the person your trying to connect with, and then use it. So when you think about ‘Go for No!’ these are fundamentals for getting to kNOw people of influence. 

Now, that brings us to some additional keys: be open, be flexible, and don’t be desperate.

Be Open: Don’t focus on your agenda, figure out what you have to offer the other person, even if little, the attempt is what matters.

Be Flexible: Again don’t get fixed or rigid in your agenda. Ask a couple questions and really listen to the other person’s answers. Feel compelled to impress them with your wit? Save it. Just focus on them for now.

Don’t be Desperate: If you have a conversation with someone and they aren’t interested, if it doesn’t look like it is going to work out, let it go. Be gracious and grateful and thank the person for their time. How you handle a ‘rejection’ actually could go a long way in helping you out in the future! Respond negatively, and you may have ruined future opportunities. You may feel desperate but you can’t come across that way. (For more on this check out my post, When you Go for No! Never Do This!)   

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Do Not Ignore This Strategy

GFN-QuietQuote-FINAL“The quieter you become, the more you can hear.” – Ram Dass

Super trainer of all things online and home based business oriented, Ray Higdon shared a simple but powerful strategy and I wanted to pass it on.

It’s a wildly under utilized sales skill called:

Being Quiet. Or… Staying Silent. Take your pick.

Simple. Not always easy.

The content of this particular teaching Ray did had to do with posing a closing statement. In this scenario, Ray was teaching a simple way to close saying, “It sounds like you are ready to join.”

And after making this statement, Ray pointed out that immediately after saying this, you must then GO SILENT.

Have you ever heard the saying, “the first person to speak, loses?”

Never make an assumptive (closing) statement or ask a yes/no question and then start talking. Ever. It doesn’t help “sell” anyone on anything except you are nervous, desperate or both.

Don’t ignore this strategy. Silence in selling is powerful. So, relax, and zip it!

Did you know that we just co-authored a book with Ray called Go for No! for Network Marketing. If you are in direct selling or network marketing it is a must read! Get it here in our store or on Amazon here if you prefer.

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